Sometimes, when things seem to be falling to pieces, they are really falling into place” – Unknown Author. (Click here to Tweet This!)
So, have you ever been in that place in life where it seems like everything in falling apart? It can be so tough, can’t it?
That’s why I love today’s quote to start off the week. This week’s quote has an unknown author, but I absolutely had to share it with you, as it’s all about one of my favourite topics, control. If you’ve met me (or perhaps even if you haven’t!), you know that I’m a bit of a “control freak”. So, I love to be in charge of my own life and know where it’s headed.
Well, that’s great, of course, until Life says:
“Looks like things are falling apart!”.
As put together as I seem, when my priorities seem muddled, and I’m not sure where I’m headed, it’s stressful! You know what I mean, right?
When You Thought You Knew What You Wanted (Sound Familiar?)
So, here’s my personal story:
While I may look put together, I’ve changed my mind a hundred times about what I want out of this life. Actually, I went from aiming for a stellar marketing job in 2007 to quitting my corporate job in 2011 to tutoring full time in Canada, to following my dream to move to England in 2012. Next, I tried SO hard to stay in the UK, feeling like a failure when my efforts were futile.
Then, I spent two years in Barcelona wishing I were back in the UK, culture shocked by the (relative) disorganization and frenzy in almost every aspect of life here. Last fall, I jetted off to Holland for an efficient, productive, rainy research stay, fully expecting to want to live there forever. (You see, salaries and working conditions for academics in Holland are much better, even though academia as a whole seems to be full of graduates fighting for 2 year post-docs and moving again every few years).
You know what?:
I didn’t. I actually got back to Barcelona and loved it more than the first few weeks of fascination after I landed; it was as if I were a blown-away tourist. That’s totally fine, and I feel that I’m on the right path now, though staying here is my next challenge.
You might ask:
So, how did you do get there? From total confusion to realizing where you wanted to live, and what type of life you wanted to lead? Trust me, it took a lot of pondering! Also, it took a lot of trial-and-error, to be fair. Each time I thought I knew where I was headed, a twist or turn changed my path.
I’ve put together a few tips in the next section that may help.
3 Ways To Take Control When You Feel Like Falling Apart
However strong we think we may be, when we feel like our lives are falling to pieces, rather than into place, it can be stressful!
So, to combat this, I have three strategies:
First, it’s okay if your goals take time.
Actually, one of my main fitness goals at the moment is taking an incredibly long time to achieve, and sometimes it feels like all my effort is in vain and my plans are falling to pieces. However, I keep myself strong by remembering the quote in the image on the right. Keep going, until you get there.
Sometimes, you have to change the goal, but often, you need to change the strategy. Or the mentor. At times, even the timeline. Slow progress is still progress. That’s something that took me a long time to learn, but I find that thought helpful!
Second, make a list.
Yes, that’s right. It doesn’t have to be a fancy spreadsheet, or even my goal setting sheet (which you can find in the free printables library by the way). Simply write down what you feel. Need help?
Start with gratitude. What do you like about your life? What parts are really important to you, that you want to keep the same? For example, relationships with family and friends, your fitness plan, your favourite hobby .
Then, start writing a list of the next most important parts. Be sure they are in order. That way, you can see which pieces are “falling apart” and re-order them so your life starts to piece itself together and fall into place. Finally, choose the top area to work on (let’s say, a job hunt) and FOCUS your energy on that. Finding just one area to work on will keep you from falling apart. One step at a time, and you’ll get there.
Third, seek out new experiences.
Well, hang on, you say. How would that help?
Think about this:
Sometimes, the reason your life feels like it’s “falling apart” may be that you haven’t found your passion yet. What’s your passion? Without a passion, I find it hard to focus. When I was working in the corporate world, I was missing passion for the work I did. So, seeking out new experiences in areas you love really helps, and can guide you where you need to go.
Well, I hope today’s short but sweet post helps some of you reconsider the words “falling apart” and thing about how pieces of your life may be “falling into place”. Now, it’s a different perspective, but having various perspectives in our lives make us stronger, I think! So, I’m on to my next challenge of finding a full time, non-freelance teaching (or other) job by April, so I can call Barcelona home.
Scroll down to comment below and let me know what your strategies to keep from falling apart are! I love to hear from all of you and I respond to every comment 🙂
Have a lovely and productive Monday!
P.S. Photo fans, the photo for today’s post (and poster!) is one I took right here in Barcelona, in Gaudi’s Park Güell last spring.
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