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I’ve started over by moving to different countries, switching careers a few times, and it’s hard. So when something tragic happens and people start from the bottom – well, those stories inspire me. Turia Pitt is one person who comes to mind, but I’ll save a list of inspirational people for another post.
Having the Self-Confidence To Rebuild
Rebuild the “I’m Not A ______” Mentality
- If you’re a beginner, of course you won’t be as successful as an expert – but we compare ourselves to experts
- We categorize people as “naturally talented” without really exploring how they got there. Of course, some people do have a talent for something special – but I’m willing to bet if you dig deep down into most success stories, the foundations are not only rock bottom, but rock made of continuous pebbles of spurts of effort.
- It’s okay to fail. We fail sometimes, and we need to pick up and keep going . You can be anything you want to be, so don’t give up trying.
3 Strategies To Start Over From Rock Bottom
1. Focus on the Present
2. Find 2 People: One Where You Are, And One Ahead
Two people? Yes, I’m suggesting you search for both a role model, and someone who is more like a peer. We often have a tendency to compare our situations to other people’s and make wildly unfair comparisons.
When there is only a role model to look at, it can seem that you’re in a place far, far away from them. Find some colleagues who are in the same place you are, or slightly ahead. Get together with them and talk – it’ll help you with Step 3 below!
3. Create A Rebuilding Plan
Now, before you create a plan, remember this:
Pain is meant to happen. I was reading this Livestrong article on pain this morning and it got me thinking. Now, I know the article is about accepting physical pain, and learning what your body is telling you. However, I think it applies to emotional pain, too. For example, their idea that pain helps warn us against future pain can apply to feeling distressed, depressed, or stressed after an event, too.
Well, that means re-building is meant to happen, too 🙂 As difficult as it is when you feel like you’ve hit rock bottom, know that you can rebuild, too. Think about where you want to be, what your role models and the other person you chose in Step #2 are doing, and know you can do it, too.
What are your strategies for re-building? For creating something new when your first idea didn’t work, or something in your life failed? I’d love to hear your stories in the comments below! 🙂
Have a lovely and productive week!
P.S. Photo fans, the photo for today’s post (and poster!) is one I took way back in 2015 in the Pyrenees Mountains in Huesca, Spain
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