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“Keep steadily before you the fact that all true success depends at last upon yourself – Theodore T. Hunger
Do you ever feel that, as motivated as you are to “be successful”, you have difficulty defining exactly what that means for you? How can you stay motivated and ensure those “New Year’s Resolutions”, don’t disappear before the second month of the year?
In today’s short post, you’ll learn exactly how to do that!
3 Ways To Depend On Yourself
Okay, here are three ways I have learned to count on myself to achieve my goals:
Yes, I realize this sounds a bit like a pep-talk, and perhaps even a bit wishy-washy, but let me tell you, I truly believe the mind is powerful. Actually, if you whisper to yourself, softly, I can do this. I can do this, you may be surprised at how little time it takes before you believe you really can.
2. Practise Discipline
Don’t forget how important learning to have discipline is! Do “successful people” want to follow every step they have to do, jump over ever hurdle or challenge?
Of course not.
They do it, though. Sometimes, their route to “true success” may seem effortless, but it’s only because they have the conviction and discipline to get it done. You know that voice in your head that says “I don’t WANT to…”?
Answer those thoughts with a counterargument “It’s not about WANTING to. It’s about achieving the goal. Do you want the end result?” Often, I have readers ask “How do you force yourself to do something, though?”
Here is the key:
If you want the end result badly enough, no excuse will stop you.
If you don’t, every excuse will seem like a valid reason to quit, or worse, not start.
3. Make A Plan
So, it’s great to think like the two points above, but what can you do to make sure success happens? Well, there are a lot of great ways to make plans, so I’ll share a few that I like:
- Use Google Calendar so you’re not overwhelmed (Check out tips on how to do that here)
- Try out a paper planner or bullet journal if you like to draw and write by hand
- Make a vision board using a whiteboard, and divide the resulting brainstorm into lists of tasks
- Find an accountability buddy to keep you on track (someone who will keep asking how you’re doing on each goal. Are they starting to annoy you? Good! Status or progress updates will keep you on track 😉
- Use Trello to make fun drag-and-drop to-do lists that sync with your Calendar
No Excuses: How To Shove Them Away
So, what can you do when the excuses fill your mind?
Well, you first have to know the difference between interest and commitment.
Kenneth Blanchard’s quote (on the poster to the right) is one of my absolute favourite quotes because it’s just so true. You can be interested in something, find it fascinating, read about it, without truly being committed.
One of my friends asked me today if I felt “daunted” by one of more challenging goals (my PhD).
I don’t have time to be daunted, was the first thought that came to mind, because I’m really sure I’m going to do this, this year.
So I would recommend shoving those thoughts aside when they arise. Recognize them as negative, acknowledge them as excuses, and focus on your goal and the ultimate end result you desire. Soon, you won’t allow yourself to accept excuses as “reasons”
What Is True Success, Anyway?
Now, that depends, of course, on your goals. Sometimes people tend to set their benchmarks based on what other people’s goals are, which I view as a huge mistake.
Define your own goals (use my free goal-setting template in the Printables Library to get yourself started).
Your success does not have to be the same as everyone else’s!
First of all, I’d recommend that you take the time to fully answer three questions:
- 1. What do I want?
- 2. Why do I want it?
- 3. What’s my plan of attack to get there?
Yes, I seriously call it a “plan of attack”. Even some of my planning documents are named “Plan of Attack”! While it may seem silly, it does do one thing very well: it gets you in the mindset to achieve your goals.
Well, I hope that short, sweet (and slightly late!) post was helpful.
What is your idea of success? What do you to do get rid of those excuses and get on with your plan? I’d love to hear from you in the comments below 🙂
Have a lovely and productive Monday!
P.S. Photography lovers, the photo for today’s post (and poster!) is one of the first photos I took when I moved to my new home, Barcelona, in 2014
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